Ep 24 - Feeling Like a Failure After Birth? You're Not Alone
In this deeply personal and unfiltered episode, Jill and Bobby open up about the emotional weight of the first few days after birth—particularly the overwhelming feelings of failure, isolation, and pressure that so many parents quietly carry. Jill shares raw reflections from her cesarean recovery and early breastfeeding struggles, while Bobby offers perspective on navigating those vulnerable moments as a partner. Together, they shine a light on the silent expectations placed on new moms and the complicated emotions that can emerge when support doesn’t meet our needs.
In This Episode, You'll Learn:
- How Jill navigated early feelings of failure during postpartum recovery
- Why the first days after birth can feel so isolating for moms—even when they’re surrounded by care
- The subtle (and not-so-subtle) pressures from hospital staff that undermine a mom’s instincts
- Bobby’s perspective on support, distance, and communication in those early days
- How resentment can build when emotional and physical needs go unmet
- Reflections on how a second birth experience could look different with intentional choices
- The power of safe co-sleeping, cultural wisdom, and reclaiming your maternal intuition
The early days of parenthood are often filled with expectations that don’t reflect the reality—and the shame that follows can be crushing. But you are not alone in these feelings. By sharing our honest stories, we hope to offer a bit of light, validation, and solidarity to anyone feeling unseen in their postpartum journey. Whether you’re in the thick of it or reflecting back, may this episode remind you that healing starts with being heard.
We hope you'll join us next time! —Jill & Bobby
As we celebrate Mother's Day, we want to honor all the incredible moms out there. You are seen, you are loved, and your journey matters. Whether you're a first-time mom or a seasoned pro, we hope you take time to celebrate YOU.
You are invited to find community with us, check out the Mama Outspoken Village here. For more information or to purchase your copy of the book, you can go here.
We're also gearing up for the Sounds of Silence 5K and the Hope is Here 5K to support the Postpartum Resource Center of New York. Stay tuned for details, and if you’d like to get involved, you can join my team or support the cause. Together, we can support postpartum moms everywhere.
Remember, you’re not alone in this. One of our favorite resources is the Postpartum Resource Center of New York—you deserve support that sees you.
