Ep 31 - Is It Okay To Hate Being Pregnant… Even When Everything Goes “Right”?
In this honest return to the Mama Outspoken Podcast, Jill and Bobby share why the show has been on a break and what brought them back to the mic.
They talk about losing Jill’s dad, walking through confusion around a possible miscarriage, and then finding out she is, in fact, pregnant again. Now around halfway through this new pregnancy, Jill opens up about intense symptoms, shifting capacity in her business, and what it’s like to feel the life being “sucked out of her” while people expect her to be glowing and grateful.
Together, Jill and Bobby sit with the questions: “Is it okay to hate being pregnant even when everything goes ‘right’?” and “Why don’t more women talk about the discomfort of pregnancy?” They unpack the pressure to appear joyful, the emotional dissonance of wanting the baby but struggling with the experience, and how grief and pregnancy can collide in the same season. If you’ve ever felt guilty for not loving pregnancy, this episode is for you.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Why the podcast has been on a break and what’s changed since the last episode
- How Jill is navigating grief over her dad’s passing while carrying a new baby
- The reality of intense pregnancy symptoms: morning sickness, fatigue, insomnia, GERD, and more
- The pressure to “look happy” and glowing while your internal experience feels anything but
- The emotional dissonance of deeply wanting the baby but suffering through pregnancy
- How environment and community shape the pressure to perform joy (in‑person vs virtual life)
- The decision to shift into a once-a-month cadence and release guilt around doing less
- Reassurance that you’re not the only one who doesn’t feel comfortable in their pregnant body
You can be grateful for your baby and miserable in your body. You can be excited and scared. Hopeful and exhausted. Two things can be true at once.
If this conversation feels a little too familiar… if you’re walking through pregnancy or postpartum while also carrying grief, burnout, or a shift in what you’re capable of right now, you don’t have to process that alone.
Explore the Mama Outspoken Resources, and check out postpartumny.org for support and community.
We hope you'll join us next time!
—Jill & Bobby
You are invited to find community with us, check out the Mama Outspoken Village here. To learn more or grab your copy of the book, head here. Remember, you’re not alone in this. One of our favorite resources is the Postpartum Resource Center of New York - you deserve support that sees you.
