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Ep 32 - You Knew What You Were Signing Up For? Yeah, Right.

Season #2

In this episode of the Mama Outspoken Podcast, Jill and Bobby take aim at a phrase so many moms hear: “You knew what you were signing up for.” Jill shares a powerful passage from her book about why that line hits so hard and why, in reality, most of us had no idea what we were walking into. From postpartum depression, anxiety, and rage to the everyday shock of how much motherhood asks of you, they unpack the myth that moms-to-be “know” what they’re getting into simply because they chose to have a baby. Together, Jill and Bobby talk about the silence around postpartum, the way expectations get shaped by half-truths and highlight reels, and what it would have meant for Jill to have “a Jill” when she was pregnant: someone telling the truth before she stepped into motherhood. If you’ve ever thought, “I should have known better” or “Everyone else seems to be handling this just fine,” this conversation is for you. In this episode, you’ll hear:
  • Why “You knew what you were signing up for” is such a harmful, inaccurate phrase
  • How Jill’s real experience of postpartum clashed with what she’d been taught to expect
  • The lack of honest, detailed conversations about the postpartum period and mental health
  • The quiet shame many moms carry when motherhood feels harder than they were led to believe
  • Why it’s not your fault if you didn’t “research more” or see it coming
  • What it could look like to have more truth-telling voices for pregnant and new moms
  • How Jill and Bobby are trying to be that voice now through the podcast, the book, and the Mama Outspoken Village
You didn’t fail because motherhood hit harder than you expected. You weren’t given the full story. If this conversation feels a little too familiar… if you’re walking through pregnancy or postpartum carrying guilt that you “should have known better,” you don’t have to untangle that alone.  

Explore the Mama Outspoken Resources, and check out postpartumny.org for support and community. 

We hope you'll join us next time!
—Jill & Bobby  

You are invited to find community with us, check out the Mama Outspoken Village here. To learn more or grab your copy of the book, head here. Remember, you’re not alone in this. One of our favorite resources is the Postpartum Resource Center of New York - you deserve support that sees you.

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